If you happily spent Valentine’s Day with a special someone then congratulations, you’re quite the fortunate one. However, for many people Valentine’s day is anything but happy or romantic.
For a porn addict, more often than not, this holiday seems to serve as a reminder that their romantic life is not where they want it to be. This can hold true for both people in relationships as well as those who are single. Here are the top ways that porn can impact your relationship (or ruin your chances of getting one):
1. Sexual Dysfunction
If you can’t get aroused, can’t get off, or can’t last during real sex, then there’s a pretty good chance that your porn use could be the cause. If you are in a sexual relationship, you may find that these sexual impairments can throw water on the sparks between you and your partner in the bedroom.
If you don’t have a partner but know you suffer from this, then it can serve as a major deterrent to pursuing romantic relationships. No one wants to go dancing with a broken leg.
2. Sexual Objectification
Nothing tends to turn a woman off more than being treated like a piece of meat. Those porn stars who act like they like being used for sex are truly just acting to make money. If you’ve been training yourself to look at women as breathing humping posts then your ability to interact with them as humans is going to be impaired.
For those in a relationship this means that you may have trouble connecting with your partner on a deeper level. This can form a major obstacle to cultivating the intimacy that is necessary to sustain relationships.
For the single guys, it’s going to limit your ability to look a girl in the eye, treat her like a woman, and basically present yourself like someone who is worth her time. Sexually ogling a woman from afar (or ogling them up close for that matter) is not going to land you that date.
3. Wasted Time
In a relationship this can be a real killer – when you spend your time polishing the hotdog instead of building a connection with that special someone, this is a clear recipe for disaster. For single people it’s an even clearer barrier – each time you stay at home taming your trouser snake is a missed opportunity for going out and meeting people you could eventually date.
4. Lack of Motivation
Heavy porn use can do a serious number on your level of motivation. Why do anything else when you can get the hyper-stimulating experience of PMO?
For both the single and taken this amounts to the same thing: lack of progress. Often, a significant other is looking for you to do more than just bring your incredible personality to the table. If you aren’t pursuing your goals in life (financial, physical, spiritual, creative, etc.) then not only are you going to be less attractive, but you are also going to be less happy with yourself.
5. Numbed Response to Natural Rewards
This ties into the previous point – if you are using a lot of porn, everything else begins to pale in comparison to that high. When this is the case, it’s very easy to become complacent in your relationship. You stop doing those little things like holding hands, buying flowers, or going out of your way to make them laugh.
As a single person, the entire courtship process of dating can just seem like a major bore. Before, just talking to a girl you were interested in might have exhilarated you, but now – if it’s not hardcore porn, your curiosity might not even be piqued.